Comfort, Silence and A Lot of Sleep

Last weekend Rob and I did something we’ve never done before; we left our kids with my parents and we went away for a couple of nights. This may not seem like a big deal to most people, but it was momentous for us. And to be honest, it was a much needed and well-deserved trip. Now we didn’t trek across the rain forest in Costa Rica nor did we stroll down beautiful Panamanian beaches like we did in our pre-kids life together, but we managed to sneak away to Cincinnati which, to us, felt like quite a retreat. Rob and I are super parents. All right, all right — we get that all parents will say they’re super parents. So maybe we are just mediocre, but we’re...
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A Letter To My Mom

Dear Mom, Your month long visit has come and gone. I’m sitting here looking through photos from your stay and they remind me of all the little adventures we went on. It’s funny because most children would cringe with the thought of their mother staying at their house for a long period of time, but we welcome it…in fact, we look forward to it. When you come back, you just fit in again. Six months can go by between visits and yet, you just know how to fill in the gaps. At times I feel guilty because you help out so much (just the other morning I was yelling at you to stop doing the dishes), but I have to remember that you wouldn’t do anything you didn’t...
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‘Progressing’

Try to do a blog post today. Most days I think it, but I rarely follow through. It’s not because I’m not dedicated to Say Hola Lola, it’s just that my free moments are few and far between these days. Anyone with young children knows this to be true. For those that would like continuous Lola updates, I’d recommend following Say Hola Lola on Facebook or on Instagram. It’s hard to believe Lola has completed her first full year of school (she started halfway through last year). On her final day of school, I sobbed like a baby throughout the entire day. I couldn’t articulate into words where the tears were coming from, I just knew I was proud. I watched the video of Lola walking to the...
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Is Our Marriage Different Because We Have a Child With Special Needs?

I’ve read blog posts about how the dynamics of a marriage change when you have a special needs child and it made me wonder: Is the marriage between Rob and me any different because we have a child with special needs? As you can see from the bio on my website, Rob and I fell in love fast. As he wrote, “It was quick. It was breathless.” And that’s the absolute truth. We knew we were committed to one another before we even knew each other’s quirks, habits or deep dark secrets. People often told us we would have beautiful babies and in my heart, I believed that to be true. And they were right–we brought two spectacular human beings into this world. Our daughter, Lola, who happens...
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Finding Her Person

For most of us, some of our fondest memories are ones we have shared with our friends. At an early age, we are placed in situations that enable us to make friends. Play dates, Mommy & Me classes, going to a daycare and eventually school. These are all ways we are encouraged to go out and be social amongst others. As parents, we will go on to teach our children about the importance of friendship because we know having good friends is vital to the soul. After Lola was born and before the rollercoaster of health issues came to fruition, I sought out a group of women who had babies. It was a way for my daughter to begin socializing and it was key to maintaining my sanity...
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