Thanksgiving Perspective

I think being a mom of a child with exceptional needs has given me a unique perspective on being thankful. While I’m thankful for all of my blessings on this Thanksgiving, I find that I’m equally as thankful each and every day of the year. It’s nice to have an entire day to ponder the meaning behind gratitude and how it weaves itself into my daily existence because I am indeed very grateful. But as a mother, a wife and, more importantly, a woman, I try to honor the things I’m thankful for all year round…and these two are at the top of that list. Lola has taught me to appreciate in a different way and embrace all that life has to offer. Because I surround myself with...
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‘Progressing’

Try to do a blog post today. Most days I think it, but I rarely follow through. It’s not because I’m not dedicated to Say Hola Lola, it’s just that my free moments are few and far between these days. Anyone with young children knows this to be true. For those that would like continuous Lola updates, I’d recommend following Say Hola Lola on Facebook or on Instagram. It’s hard to believe Lola has completed her first full year of school (she started halfway through last year). On her final day of school, I sobbed like a baby throughout the entire day. I couldn’t articulate into words where the tears were coming from, I just knew I was proud. I watched the video of Lola walking to the...
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How an NHL Hockey Coach Helped Me Through a Tough Special Needs Parenting Moment

A couple of weeks ago, my husband, Rob and I were reading books with our kids, Lola and Sebastian. Sebastian is enthralled with books. He could read and reread the same book 50 times a day if we let him. He also likes puzzles, shape sorting, stacking blocks and other forms of play that require complex fine motors skills — fine motor skills Lola hasn’t quite mastered yet. On that Sunday, I sat and watched Lola try to like the book reading too. She soon moved on to the toy piggy bank. And I watched as she struggled to get the fake coin in the piggy bank. I could see the frustration as she tried repeatedly to get that darn coin to go in. She finally gave up...
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Sibling Rivalry is Driving Mom Crazy

Can I be honest with you? Yesterday may have been one of my worst days as a mom ever. Yep. Ever. What is it that makes some days tolerable and other days quite the opposite — dare I say abhorrent? But yesterday was just one of those days where I could do no right as a mom. Sebastian could have been a third walking leg as he never once let me go. Lola was upset that Sebastian was attached to me. Her inability to verbalize her unhappiness made her throw even louder tantrums. Her tantrums made Sebastian scream even louder. Those screams made me want to scream, but instead all I could do was just sob and pray that the day would end soon. I’m thankful I have...
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Happy Birthday Sebastian!

Dear Sebastian, It was one year ago today you graced us with your unbelievable presence. We should have known you were going to be a force of nature just by the way you came into the world. You were quite happy in mommy’s belly and you were showing no signs of coming out by the time mommy’s due date came around. Four days later, the doctor thought it would be safest for mommy to be induced so you would be born. But you had your own agenda buddy. I didn’t need to be induced because you began to come on your own, right after we checked into the hospital. And then when you were finally being born, you actually got stuck! Now I had been a mom to...
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